Boundaries

Boundaries

 

Do people take advantage of you?

Do you have trouble saying no?

Are you in control of your life?

 

A boundary is anything that helps separate you from someone else, as well, as shows you where
you begin and end.  Boundaries define us… they define what is me and what is not me. They show where you end and someone else begins.  Think of it as your own personal property line.  Boundaries help
us to keep the things that will nurture us inside our property line and keep things that will harm us on the outside.  They indicate what we will and will not do, as well, as indicate what others can and cannot do in relation to us. Conflicts between people occur when our boundaries are not clear and made known.   Boundary issues can occur between your family, spouse, children, friends, work, yourself, and even
God.

Some examples of boundaries are:  Words, truth, body, time, geographical and emotional distance, and other people.

Our feelings, behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, our choices, values, thoughts, love, and desires are just a few areas that are within our boundaries, therefore, we need to take responsibility for these areas in our life.

When our boundaries are not clear this leaves room for others to take advantage and disrespect how we feel.  People who have difficulty setting limits will have a problem with setting boundaries, as well as those who don’t respect others people’s limits.  Sometimes we, too, overstep others boundaries and fail to respect them.

The Bible has many teachings on boundaries, such as, Let you Yes be Yes and your No be No… Matthew
5:37.  People who feel like they have to be compliant have the inability to say no to the bad, which, keeps them from refusing and even recognizing evil.  They don’t have the ability to guard their heart (Proverb 4:23).    

Understanding who you are in Christ and learning His boundaries for your life will help you work
towards the goals you have set for yourself.

My goal is to help you establish healthy boundaries so you can experience the emotional freedom
from any issues that are holding you back, help you develop healthy relationships and help you discover the purposes that God designed you for as His child.